McKinney Matchmakers | Warning Signs You’re Just a Rebound

There is no doubt that being in a new relationship is exhilarating, and we know you agree with us on that.  You are getting to know this new man in your life, you’re constantly telling your friends about all the wonderful dates you’re going out on, and you’re smitten from head to toe.  You feel like you finally found someone you can settle down with—at last!  But after a few weeks, things start to take a turn.  So what’s going on?  Well, it’s time to take a step back and assess your relationship, because our McKinney matchmakers know you might have landed yourself smack dab in the middle of a rebound relationship.

We know it wasn’t your fault.  You’re a great catch that any man would love to be with.  You just fell for a guy who wasn’t over his ex, someone who ventured out in the dating scene on the hunt for a quick replacement.  He is not in the right mind to date, and he certainly shouldn’t be in a relationship with you.  He wants to put the past behind him and is using you to do it.  He might not even be aware that he’s doing it, but you definitely need to figure out it out and prevent yourself from getting hurt by this guy.

Today, our McKinney matchmakers from Dallas’ #1 matchmaking service, DFW Singles, are going to show you the telltale signs you’re only his rebound woman.

1. He’s already in love with you.

Everyone has experienced infatuation at one point in life.  When you enter a new relationship, that’s all you’re going to feel because everything is new and exciting.  You can’t believe that this amazing person is into you as much as you’re into them.  Basically, you’re seeing everything through rose-tinted glasses.  But there is a difference between a new relationship glow and falling in love head over heels.

When you’re in a brand new relationship, it’s normal to want to spend every second of the day with them. You want to hang out with your partner and ignore the rest of the world.  If you’ve been dating him for just two weeks or a month or so and he is already professing his undying love for you, he’s either desperate to be in a relationship or is rebounding.  Neither of which are good news for you.

2. He makes remarks about this ex.

As professional matchmakers, we know that getting over a relationship, particularly a long-term one, can take a long time.  For most people, it takes more than a few weeks to get over it.  If he is already dating, despite breaking up with his girlfriend last week, then you know he is not over his ex.  You know what you need to do.

Even if he’s been broken up for a few weeks, that doesn’t mean you’re in the clear.  Does he make remarks about his ex?  That’s a sign he’s not over her.  You might not necessarily want to go out to eat with your ex, but you’re certainly not talking about him, right?  Why?  Because you’re over him.  If your partner is always making remarks about his ex, take it as a sign he still has feelings for her.

3. He’s eager to put pictures of the two of you on Facebook.

Okay, if your new boyfriend is the type of guy who must Instagram every second of the day, then you have nothing to worry about.  However, if your new partner is an average social media user who only posts stuff occasionally, then that’s a sign he’s eager to show you off to the world.  But why is this a bad thing?  Because he’s trying to put on a show that he’s already moved on from his ex.  Maybe his ex is still on his friend list, so he wants her to see it firsthand.

He wants to show you off to the world, but it’s not for the right reasons.  Oh, no, he simply wants to show everyone that he’s already found someone new.  Alarm bells should be ringing in your head.  If not, we hope they are now.

4. He wants to be a veteran couple.

Let us explain this one a little more.  You can advance a relationship pretty quickly by getting physical, if that’s what you want.  However, it takes time to develop a meaningful relationship.  To be in a relationship in which your partner knows what you’re thinking or feeling just from one quick glance takes years to achieve.  Those well-established couples who have an endless list of inside jokes didn’t make them overnight.  The ones who are happy spending weekends at home watching movies in bed didn’t get there in a month or two.  It took years to get to this point.

If your new boyfriends wants to skip over the exciting stages a new relationship and immediately jump in to the routine of an older couple, that’s a sign he misses being in a committed relationship and wants to feel it again.  He wants that feeling of security he had with his ex, the kind of security and peace of mind that takes years to achieve.  But he wants it today, and he wants all of it.

5. You always bump into his ex when you’re together.

As much as we all like to believe that we’re spontaneous, the truth is that everyone has their own routines.  We get coffee from the same coffee shop every morning, we do our grocery shopping at the same grocery store every week, and we go to the same gym every afternoon (and always at the same time).  When you’re in a relationship, you get to know the places your partner frequents.  After all, how would you surprise your partner with their favorite coffee if you don’t know where they got it from?

There’s always the possibility of running into an ex, especially if you live in a small town.  But if you have run into his ex many times while you’re together, we know it wasn’t by chance.  Oh, no, it absolutely wasn’t.  If you’ve run into his ex more times than you would like to admit, it might be because your new boyfriend wants to show you off to her.

Don’t let your new boyfriend drag you through his emotional baggage.  Even if you think he’s the most attractive guy around and he treats you like a princess, he still has some issues he needs to work out on his own before can start dating again.  Being in a relationship with you will not help him heal and move on from his ex, no matter how much you want to believe it will.

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